The Economics of Why You’re Single

This is my old article first published in malesbanget.com, anglo-fied with some changes

So you’re single at the moment. You think you’re a good person, with good qualities, but here you are, without anyone to hold tight at night.

And hey wait a minute.. That hot person from the building next door is single too?! Oh wow how can a person be THAT hot and single?!

This gets you thinking.. Maybe, this is destiny. You and that super attractive and amazing human being is single at the same time. It must be fate! You are meant to be together!

But hold on. Chances are, it’s not. And as the Theory of Economics dictate, you and her/him won’t find each other.

Let me explain.

You, for all intents and purposes, are okay. You look okay, you have a good job. You come from a good family, good education, and you have a pretty good social life.

You’re Average Joe. And you know it. And since you think you’re average, you’re not too picky when it comes to dating. Your standard is not the highest.

On the other hand, your crush is a-mah-zing. Your crush looks like a candidate for People’s Most Beautiful edition. Your crush is at the top of her/his career, with 2 Master’s degrees, which she/he finished with Magna-Cum Laude. Your crush got thousands of following on Instagram & Twitter, on which your crush frequently post about your crush’s extravagant life or highly sought after opinion about current events.

Your crush, again, is a-mah-zing. And your crush knows this. That’s why he/she is kinda picky about potential mates (which is common for highly educated person) And it’s not an arrogant thing, of course. Your crush has a lovely personality. Bae got high standards, is all.

This situation is illustrated on the demand curve below.

Okay, moving on. You’re average, you know it, society knows it. Not that many people wants to bone you. On a good day you can get Tinder matches, but let’s face it, you’re not turning heads.

Your crush however, people know that he/she is a-mah-zing. And there are a lot of people who wants to bone your crush, including you.

This situation is illustrated on the supply curve below.

Now, let’s put dem bodacious curvy lines together.

As you can see, yours and your crush’ line do not meet in the Equilibrium Point, meaning… You’re both still single. You’re not too picky, but not a lot people wants to bone you. A lot of people wants to bone your crush, but her/his high standards stand in the way.

So in the end.. Nobody got to bone anybody. Sucks huh. So maybe, if you’re average, you just have to find it in yourself what it is that makes you special, and find that person who sees that. And if you think you’re all that, like “your crush” in this scenario, maybe don’t judge people too fast and too soon. You might miss out on the special quality that “average” person has to offer.

And hey, this is just some bullshit theory my homeboy Adam Smith and I made up. If you find yourself in this situation, who’s stopping you to take the leap and ask your a-mah-zing crush out on a date ? I mean, who knows…